A child’s restful sleep pleases parents, allowing them to fully relax and go about their business. However, sometimes children going to bed are accompanied by prolonged falling asleep, painful screams and severe hysterics. The child screams before going to bed, seemingly without any reason, it is impossible to calm him down. Child hysteria is understood as a state of excessive emotional arousal of a child, manifested by loud screams, crying, aggressive and inappropriate behavior. Particularly severe cases of hysteria can result in convulsions. However, for the most part, children's tantrums are the norm and are easily explained. Why does a child scream before going to bed? Knowing the nature and causes, you can prevent and prevent hysteria, and also understand whether you should seek help from a specialist.
A child is born with not yet fully formed systems and organs. Thus, children develop the skill of distinguishing day from night only a month and a half after birth.
Infants have a different sleep structure from adults, with short and rapidly changing phases:
- An adult's sleep has 4 phases;
- In a child, the third phase is formed by the first year of life.
The baby's sleep begins with superficial or fast phase when the nervous system and brain are actively working, digesting information received in large quantities during the day. Also during this period, muscle activity is observed that can frighten and wake up the child. Transitioning from one phase to another can also cause your baby to scream and cry in the middle of the night.
In children under 4 years of age, the nervous system is designed in such a way that excitation processes dominate over inhibition processes. The exception is 10-15% of children who can feel overexcited and cope with it.
Here are examples:
- Only little phlegmatic people can fall asleep on their own without the help of their parents.
- Choleric children painfully fall asleep due to excessive excitement characteristic of this type of temperament.
- Sanguine people have a large supply of energy, which allows them not to get tired for a long time and interferes with the process of falling asleep.
The developmental characteristics of a child allow him to begin to independently cope with overexcitation only by 3.5 years, and in practice, six months later. Until this age, it is easy for a child to become overexcited and requires a lot of work to calm down. For this reason, children scream and cry, especially before bed, when they need to relax.
Our ancestors were not afraid of children's crying. In their arsenal in case a child is hysterical before bed, there were lullabies and fairy tales, as well as various nursery rhymes to distract and calm an overexcited child.
Overwork overtakes the baby quickly and imperceptibly: one minute he was playing, and the next minute he can no longer control himself, screaming and crying like a knife. Parents are perplexed by such sharp changes moods and cannot understand the reasons.
Being able to notice the signs of approaching fatigue in time is a complex behavioral skill that not all adults have, and in children it is formed only by the age of 4.
Increased excitability is far from the only cause of children's tantrums before bed.
Along with overexcitation there are some psychological factors that prevent your child from falling asleep peacefully:
Children under 2 years of age cannot clearly articulate why they cannot sleep. Therefore, they often throw tantrums and cry before going to bed. This is the only way in their arsenal so far to show that something is bothering them.
Reasons for contacting a psychotherapist or psychologist may include: following cases:
- if a child over 10 years old is afraid to sleep alone without light, talking about fantastic creatures hiding in his room (schoolchildren already perfectly distinguish between the boundaries of fiction and truth);
- if a child throws tantrums before bed, afraid to fall asleep, screams loudly and cries bitterly in his sleep, talks about death;
- if the child shows signs panic attack: uneven breathing, loss of consciousness and more.
Even in the absence of these signs, parents should not ignore children's fears and worries. A common fear of the dark in a small family member without taking appropriate measures can lead to mental and nervous disorders. Children's fears, hidden deep in the subconscious, can be the cause of uncertainty and complexes in adulthood.
The child grows and develops, changes occur in the body, sometimes causing discomfort.
The following are noted physiological factors, making a child cry and scream before bedtime:
Screaming and crying small child may be the reason pain syndrome or the presence of a hidden disease. When a child regularly has difficulty falling asleep, sleeps restlessly, looks tired and loses appetite, it is necessary to seek help from a doctor as soon as possible.
Most The best way fighting children's hysteria is its warning.
Some simple tips will help you develop the skill of observing your child, promptly recognizing an impending hysteria and taking measures to prevent it:
It is not overwork, but good fatigue that allows you to fall asleep calmly and quickly. City children are often prone to night hysterics, especially in the autumn-winter period. They are unable to spend enough physical strength to get tired. The fatigue they get from watching TV, running around the house and playing with toys that bore them is not enough to proper development And good sleep. Children need muscle activity and a moderate amount of new experiences: morning exercises, walks at any time of the year, active games fresh air, communication with peers, classes in sports sections and studios.- One of the main tasks of parents is to control the level of arousal of the child. The baby should not be bored, but impressions (visual, auditory, motor, social) should be strictly dosed. Each child has his own measure of impressions that are beneficial to health. The problem is that a child under 4-5 years old cannot feel it on his own. This is where the parent comes in, who should intuitively feel and see this line. Attentive parents can silently identify changes in their child's behavior that indicate that he is close to overexcitement and fatigue. One begins to laugh loudly, another begins to whine, a third begins to move faster, falling and hitting objects, and for a fourth, the tempo of speech and the volume of their voice change. You need to know these “bells” well, notice them in a timely manner and take action without waiting for the child to become hysterical.
- To accustom your baby to the regimes of wakefulness and sleep, it is necessary to actively communicate with him during the day, not to create the illusion of night with closed curtains, and not to maintain complete silence during his sleep. nap. Parents can talk to each other, do something around the house, listen to music quietly or watch TV. However, you should avoid sharp and loud sounds that can wake up and frighten the baby. At night, on the contrary, it is necessary to exclude bright light, gradually teaching the baby to fall asleep in complete darkness. 2 hours before going to bed, you should set your child up for rest and relaxation, avoiding emotional stress, active games and loud laughter.
- Co-sleeping with a baby has two sides of its manifestation. On the one hand, the baby is comfortable and calm next to his mother, and the mother has the opportunity, without getting up, to quickly put the baby to bed in the middle of the night while breastfeeding. The other side is not so pleasant - the baby’s sleep is restless, with shudders and sobs, especially if it was preceded by hysteria, disturbs the mother during the night and does not allow her to fully rest. The longer the baby stays in his parents' bed, the more difficult it will be to wean him from this habit without hysterics. It is better to immediately accustom the child to his crib, and in the future, if possible, allocate him a room or a small corner in the apartment. Personal space creates good self-esteem, feeling self-esteem and importance for the child.
- It is important for a calm and timely fall asleep to follow certain rules, a kind of ritual that sets the child up for sleep. Children willingly perform traditional, familiar and familiar actions. First, you need to decide on a clear bedtime and prepare for it in advance together with your baby. You can collect the toys and wish them good night, then go into a warm bath with a relaxing infusion of herbs or essential oils and wish the toys in the bathtub good dreams. Reading a book, watching a program " Good night, kids!”, massage with a drop of aromatic oil, singing a lullaby while rocking in your arms, and much more that is dear to parents from childhood and finds a positive response from the child. It is useful to quietly talk with your baby before bed about how he spent the day, about his interests, impressions and friends. Warm hugs and conversations before bed, for at least 15 minutes, calm the child’s nervous system, improve falling asleep and normalize his sleep. However, in order to avoid emotional arousal and, as a result, prolonged falling asleep, these rituals must be clearly limited in time. After the ritual of going to bed, you should put the baby in his bed and wish him good night.
If a child resists and cries, this indicates that he has formed incorrect associations about sleep. In this case, you need to patiently and firmly follow the established rules, without giving in to the child’s resistance or requests. You should not follow the child’s lead, pick him up, endlessly rock him to sleep and sing lullabies. It is much better to calmly explain that it is time to sleep, sit next to the crib, and pet the baby. It is important to remember that the child needs to grow up, and the process of rocking oneself in one’s arms delays this moment.
Daytime sleep is necessary for a child to relax, restore strength and relieve stress. Many children resist and refuse to sleep during the day. If parents cannot resist the pressure of their child, Negative consequences in the form of overexcitement and nightly hysterics will not take long to appear, and it will be difficult to return to the previous daily routine.
Experts believe that children need daytime rest before starting school.
Particularly excitable and emotional first-graders under the influence new environment and loads, they still need daytime sleep for a long time. According to general standards daily allowance baby sleep, recommended by pediatricians, a child from 6 to 12 months needs two daily sleep periods of 1 hour and 20 minutes. Children 1.5-3 years old need a daytime rest of at least 1.5 hours to feel comfortable.
Norms child development They say that by the age of two, a child should be able to fall asleep on his own. By this age, many enroll children in kindergartens, where the ability to fall asleep calmly and without the help of adults is an important point. Sleep habits and associations are difficult to change. However, there are moments at the child’s age when this is easiest to do: up to 6 months, at the time of weaning breastfeeding, during the period when the child begins to communicate in phrases. The task of parents is not to miss these moments and use them to normalize the right habits that will be relevant for a child up to 7-8 years old.
It is important to know if the baby has no deviations in physical and mental development, then the reasons for his hysterics lie in family relationships, difficulties of socialization and incorrect assessment of the baby’s behavior. It is important to understand the causes of children's tantrums, prevent them and help the child by guiding and correcting his behavior. This painstaking and lengthy work requires a lot of patience and consistency from parents.
Joint efforts, search for compromises, perseverance and love of parents will save the child from hysterics before bedtime and make his childhood happy and joyful.
Ancka 25/11/2010 at 15:49:25
We had this too, but for a period of time, now it’s switched off
at night on her own, even without motion sickness. And this period, also at 3.5 months, we simply rocked harder and longer through the screaming. Then this happened again when we did massages before the bath and night sleep. The massages stopped and my sleep improved. I think it's some kind of overexcitement.
Diana_74 25/11/2010 at 16:32:11
For us, this started at 4 months and continues to this day (and we recently turned 8 months). Nothing hurts 100%, but as soon as you pick it up with the thought of putting it to bed, it’s a concert. Sometimes there’s a terrible hysteria, sometimes just blathering. But we don’t go to bed without it. It manifests itself especially strongly in the evening before going to bed at night. The explanation is simple - I want to sleep, but I can’t sleep. The child is excitable and cannot relax in any other way; he relieves tension by yelling. I’m already philosophical about this. The main thing for us is to prevent hysteria with redness and blueness, etc. I hold it in my arms, calmly press it to me and calmly, not paying attention to the shouting, sing lullabies. Lately- 10 min. and allows...Hold on, perceive this as a peculiarity of your child. I would not practice swaddling and jumping on a fitball, because... In this case, mechanical motion sickness occurs, which is not beneficial for the baby...
gali4ka 25/11/2010 at 17:02:04
Yes, I read from Komarovsky,
that the baby rocks from rocking, but in these three and a half months I have already tried everything, the only thing that helps is jumping, then she seems to calm down, listens and then forgets that she needs to yell. :((
Lyuda_Nikolaychuk 11/26/2010 at 13:21:51
we had a similar situation
After 5 months of starting to sleep better, and the sleep process has started, then calm down yourself, pat the baby on the back, purr a song, lie down, get the baby to sleep, because if you are running, then you will know that it’s time for the baby to sleep party and you begin to get nervous and shake the baby" there won't be any. Good luck and patience
gali4ka 25/11/2010 at 21:51:41
I haven’t tried the water, I turned on the hairdryer, but it quiets down for a minute, then I turn off the hairdryer,
and she starts screaming again. Let's try the water too, thanks
Irenna 11/26/2010 at 11:22:12
1 for water
tummy towards you, weak light from the bathroom into the dark corridor, pump up. The sling also helped.
gali4ka 11/28/2010 at 11:05:09
we get more:
it used to be like this:
first nap at 9-10 am 40 minutes
second nap around 1 p.m. for an hour or two, depending
then around 4:30-5 pm, also an hour or two, depending on how - if you haven’t slept before, you’ll sleep longer
then at 7 pm sleep for 30-40 minutes.
then we go swimming at 8 pm somewhere.
then at 9-10 I put her to bed for the night. Sometimes, if I put her to bed at 9, then at 11 she wakes up to eat, and then depending on her luck, sometimes she eats and falls asleep, sometimes she plays for another hour.
At night he wakes up in different ways, on average 4 times, this is without hanging from the side.
We get up at 7:30, together with dad, who is getting ready for work (she sleeps very lightly, so she wakes up).BUT I write this ideally, it very often happens that she wants to sleep, yawns, rubs her eyes, I put her to bed. she falls asleep, after 15 minutes she wakes up again, I try to pump her up - no, she wants to play, she’s cheerful, her eyes are shining, we’re playing, but... she didn’t get enough sleep earlier - then she wants to sleep again, again she first starts to whine, rub her eyes, yawn, then she again manages to put herself to bed, because... cries in her arms.
The little one falls asleep again. and then you’ll be lucky - either you’ll get some sleep, or you’ll get up quickly and start whining again.I tried to exhaust her so that she would be more tired and sleep longer, not letting her sleep, but it turned out even worse, because... if she wants to sleep, she whines and whines, then it’s harder to calm her down, but when I put her to bed, she sleeps little.
In general, I'm waiting for it to outgrow.Now I’ve started to play with her calmly, don’t let her get overexcited around bedtime, no loud musical toys, no kicking or flying))) and I carry her in my arms around the house, show her things that aren’t bright, I calmly say - she seems to have started yelling less. Thu thu thu
gali4ka 09/12/2010 at 12:15:10
hmm, I don’t know, I’ll keep an eye on her... Thanks for the idea...
We've been to the NSG twice already.
The fact is that I have it even more or less, it seems to me that she is simply overexcited, because... I have a daughter - well, pure whack, very nimble and restlessgali4ka 11/28/2010 at 11:09:02
and when it passes, can you tell me?
momKatya 11/28/2010 at 23:38:52
I remember our last screams for no reason for about 6 months, but then they were dedicated to moving to the dacha.
Gradually, you will cry less and less often. and then it will stop)))
and would not take any action, especially medication.
Just be with the child, try not to get irritated. I developed complete calm in myself with such crying, she screamed in my ear, and how it passed through me.
asmar 25/11/2010 at 15:31:52
we were also advised neuroheel - this is homeopathy
Most likely, such a child’s anxiety is not good, if nothing bothers the child, he should not scream, although, all children are different.
gali4ka 25/11/2010 at 17:04:11
Len, they assigned me a minor
I bought Doromkind (the same company that produces Enterokind), but my hand doesn’t rise to give it to a small one, I don’t want to stuff such a small one with pills :(
asmar 25/11/2010 at 17:27:01
I know that mothers also practice soothing teas
I just don’t know what age they are. She was prescribed neuroheel, although the little one is more or less calm, but I’m still debating whether to buy it or not. So I understand you. But if I had yelled as much as you write, I would most likely have given up.
gali4ka 08/12/2010 at 18:57:51
Very likely... we'll try it, thanks.
gali4ka 08/12/2010 at 22:17:58
I see you understand children’s dreams very well, but maybe tell me what to do if
the child wakes up every 25-40 minutes, not always, but during the day almost all the time, I read that children sleep in a cycle of 40 minutes, so at the end of virtually every cycle my daughter wakes up :(
asmar 25/11/2010 at 19:23:56
100% there is something in this, I also noticed as soon as I let go of the situation
how a child changes before your eyes. Children are very sensitive to their mother’s condition, and this is the result. Gal, maybe you need to look within yourself for the reason? let go of all fears, look and the situation with screams will subside
gali4ka 25/11/2010 at 19:31:38
During all this time I have already tried a lot. At first I thought,
that this is how it should be, that this is normal. What about time will pass. But it doesn’t go away, and even gets worse :(
vinny_79 25/11/2010 at 20:02:21
And for us it grew from 3.5 to 7 months,
but believe me, children grow up and stop screaming so much, if only because they start playing, crawling, sitting, standing up, etc., they get very tired and sometimes they simply pass out from fatigue. Get over it, I also thought about visiting all the doctors, and it seemed to me that something was wrong with the child.
gali4ka 25/11/2010 at 17:00:40
The fact is that we have it since birth! Every single day it’s the same thing:(I hope it really grows out of it:(
Diana_74 26/11/2010 at 13:04:32
Tick, I’ll add: 100% no need to think about
gali4ka 25/11/2010 at 15:21:55
The child cries before every sleep, what should I do?
Girls, my daughter is 3.5 months old, before every sleep she screams terribly, it doesn’t matter when you go to bed, during the day or at night, whether you put her to bed earlier, later, on your chest, with a pacifier - she squeals every sleep, she turns blue:(((Sleep wants, but screams. It feels like she is very excited, wants to sleep, but can’t fall asleep. The only way to put her to sleep is to wrap her in a diaper (otherwise she arches all over while crying), and jump with her on a fitball.
I no longer have the strength, every time I put the child to bed is a concert program, and he sleeps restlessly and wakes up often. It happens that you put her to bed, and after 15 minutes she wakes up, and half an hour later she whines to sleep again, I put her to bed again, and again there is a scream in the house.
Two neurologists said that the child was completely healthy, one NSG showed that things were not very good, the other - that everything was perfect.
I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m already afraid of putting the baby to bed, in 3.5 months she only fell asleep peacefully three times, practically without screaming. I'm slowly losing my nerves :(
suboba_1 11/25/2010 at 21:48:48
try the sound of tap water instead of a fitball, it helped us to distract and relax even with colic
OlgaP 26/11/2010 at 21:48:32
we are also 3.5
how many times a day do you sleep? for example, we sleep at 9 am for about 40 minutes, then at lunch on the street from 1 pm to 3 pm and in the evening for about 30-40 minutes around six pm. And that’s all...
at night we go to bed screaming at about 11, just like you on the fitball, during the night we get up 4 times to refresh ourselves and at 7 in the morning we are ready like a cucumber for a new day... Maybe she just needs less sleep.... If, for example, we are put to bed at every feeding - there will be no less screaming than yours....
Snovapuz 08/12/2010 at 23:01:56
Galyun, you and I are like twins
More precisely kids. The same thing started happening to my son. For a couple of days now, though (not since birth). He eats, and after eating he starts screaming, the whole family calms him down. I can imagine how it feels for you. In a couple of days I almost turned gray and was already thinking about a bottle so as not to mock the child. I also rocked it on a fitball until it burst;))))
Our NSG is just not very good. Maybe you should see another doctor? They have already given me two very good coordinates.
But my friend said another reason. I quote: “I had Anfys like that, when she saw her breasts she was literally hysterical. I wish I had found out sooner. It turns out that her stomach sphincter did not contract well and after eating the milk rose again, that is, like heartburn, and this is uncomfortable and painful for babies. This is where the crying and refusal to breastfeed come from. She ate calmly only at night, in her sleep. It’s a pity, they only came up with this when she was a year old, when she completely refused to breastfeed. We found out after an ultrasound of the stomach with a water load. Everything is clearly visible there, how the child drinks , and the water flows back: (Talk to a gastroenterologist, maybe he can help solve this problem?)
+I’ll also add, I completely forgot - after eating, do not immediately place it horizontally, ideally let it lie on inclined plane, the doctor advised us, at 45 gr.
And I also thought - maybe I just get tired of sucking, like Vladimir with a tongue tie? And the upper one too, well, where is the upper lip connected to the jaw (inside)? It happens that this little thing interferes with eating :(
momKatya 11/27/2010 at 10:27:26
usually it goes away on its own, carry it in your arms, talk gently, rock it
asmar 25/11/2010 at 15:30:02
Gal, our reasons for yelling are as follows: I want to sleep, I can’t sleep, I want to eat, or something hurts
If you rule out pain and want to eat, then all that remains is that I want to sleep, but I can’t. Are you overheating her emotionally? TV, music, massages, swimming, active communication???????? Maybe there is something that makes her very overstimulated? Our child can go a maximum of 3 hours without sleep, then whims, then yelling. I try to adjust my daily routine so that I alternate everything constantly, so as to prevent screaming
sdandy 08/12/2010 at 18:52:57
by the time you go to bed, the child is already overtired
try to put it to bed earlier than you think it’s time :) look at the child, he becomes thoughtful, rubs his eyes - it’s time, miss it a little - overwork and, as a result, overexcitement. This happened to us when we bathed the child before bed according to Komarovsky. She was very tired, overexcited and walked until 12-2 at night, and she herself was a morning person, so she always got up at 7-8 in the morning and did not get enough sleep during the night. then she couldn’t sleep during the day, because she wasn’t rested, and then the day’s events piled on her, she was terribly hysterical before going to bed, and so on for any reason. We changed the regime and moved the bathing to the morning. A child under one year old should sleep 10-11 hours at night, during the day from 0 to 6 months 3 times a day for a total of 5-6 hours, 6 months - 1-2 times a day for a total of 4-5 hours. And almost all children are initially early risers, so night sleep they usually go to bed at 7-8-9 pm maximum. In Komarov style, we first held the child until he went to bed... it’s terrible. Now we put the little one to bed according to her schedule and not ours. Because 7-8 hours at night are enough for us, but she needs 10-12 to rest properly
SunLight 25/11/2010 at 17:14:06
This often happens to little ones - they otherwise cannot cope with emotions and sensations during the waking period.
If there are no questions regarding neurology, then it will outgrow quite quickly.
Before going to bed, exclude loud noises, exercises, fun...
vinny_79 25/11/2010 at 17:34:05
And it happened to us, it’s slowly passing (we’re 8.5 months old now).
I also associate this with my nervous tension- I’m very afraid of this scream, and every time before rocking I just freeze with fear that it’s about to start... And then I hired a nanny, who obviously isn’t afraid of this, and the child slowly began to fall asleep calmly.
Nataly_N 25/11/2010 at 15:48:41
I want to reassure you
I want to reassure you. I had this with my eldest (she is now 6 years old), it also started at 3-3.5 months. And I, just like you, didn’t know what to do. delivered her at 5 months. I then chalked it all up to teeth (they came out at 4 months and 5 months).
When the youngest was born, everything was super until 3.5 months - she fell asleep at the breast. And then again at 3.5 months the screams began before bed, and I knew for sure that she was not hungry and her tummy was unlikely to bother her. And just like with the older one, everything went away on its own in 5-5.5 months (and the teeth came out already at 6 months). Now she is 6.5 months old, she falls asleep next to me at night, and in my arms during the day.
So I came to the conclusion that children just need to outgrow this, they just want to sleep, they get tired, but they can’t sleep.
I only wish you patience, I think that everything will be settled for you by 5-5.5 months.
oleshenka 09/12/2010 at 12:31:53
I'm trying to stick my breasts in
if it doesn’t work out very well, then a bottle of expressed milk. He drinks the bottle quickly, then he gets tired and may pass out. And the chest - before going to bed, lying in bed, wets it a couple of times and falls asleep. Both are vyrant, only if the child is hungry, he will immediately wake up. That's why I give breastfeeding first and then another bottle.... Maybe someone will throw slippers at me, but for me this is the way out. He begins to fall asleep on his chest or even scream. But I only do this at night.
A bridle is also an option, check it out.
alsid2003 11/26/2010 at 10:24:50
We have the same story
It all started at 2 months, when she starts crying, we get dressed and go outside, she calms down on the street and falls asleep, we walk for another five minutes and return home, it helps one hundred percent, night walks also happen, but the terrible screaming and crying have become less frequent, We are now three months old.
The sleep of a newly born baby is inextricably linked with emotional state moms. If she is nervous and irritated because the child does not fall asleep, the baby becomes even more capricious. It is with the help of the mother that the newborn enters correct rhythm life.
Emotional sunsets
You are already tired of the fact that every day at the same time your baby puts on a “concert”. This phase usually occurs between 18 and 22 hours, and it cannot be avoided, even if the day has passed quietly. The baby may cry for 1-2 hours, despite all attempts to calm him down. In fact, this is how the child frees himself from the stress accumulated during the day and moves from wakefulness to sleep. The baby, tired during the day from the abundance of new impressions, “switches off” only after fulfilling his “norm” of crying. It's imperfect, but nonetheless effective way self-soothing.
Older children may react to overwork by running around and screaming loudly, and an adult may lose his temper after a hard day at work.
Features of age
The first feature is that he is more superficial and sensitive, and this is the norm. Up to 6 months, sleep consists of two phases: restless at the beginning of the cycle and calm at the end (in adults, the alternation of phases is the opposite). During restless sleep, the child tosses and turns a lot, smiles, frowns, and his eyes may be slightly open. No need to worry. This phase is necessary for normal functioning nervous system and to process the information received during the day.
The second feature is that newborns do not know about the existence of day and night! As a result, they may sleep a lot during the day and wake up at night, crying or hooting. The baby usually stops confusing day with night by the age of 1.5 months - at this time he begins to have a period of wakefulness tied to daytime. To help your child get started biological clock, focus on the contrast between day and night: during the day, communicate more and play with your baby. During naps, do not darken the windows or maintain absolute silence. At night, on the contrary, create complete darkness, do not talk to the baby, if he wakes up, do not play with him.
Is silence necessary?
The sound of the TV and muffled voices will not. If the baby hears in his sleep the quiet background of a working washing machine, the calm muffled voices of his parents, he will get used to these sounds, will not be frightened by them in his sleep and, accordingly, will sleep better, and the parents will be able to continue doing their usual things without fear of waking up the baby. But sharp and loud sounds should still be avoided, as they can frighten the child.
Causes of poor sleep
Colic. Mitigate this process associated with settlement gastrointestinal tract microflora, it is possible if you do not rush with complementary foods and only feed the baby breast milk up to 4-6 months, as WHO currently recommends.
Teething. Soothing gels and massaging the gums with a toy from the refrigerator help.
Rickets- common reason sleep disorders in the first year of life. It is caused by a violation of phosphorus-calcium metabolism due to vitamin D deficiency. initial stages In rickets, there is always an increase in neuro-reflex excitability; this symptom can be clearly detected from 3-4 months, in some cases even earlier - from 1.5 months. The child develops anxiety, fearfulness, irritability, and sleep is noticeably disturbed. Children often startle, especially when falling asleep.
Emotional overload. Parents should supervise their child's activities before bedtime. 1-2 hours before bedtime, it is not advisable to watch TV or play active or noisy games.
Enlarged pharyngeal tonsils and adenoids, which cause snoring and restless sleep in about 5% of children aged 1-7 years. Inflamed tonsils and adenoids must be treated.
Thinking about why a child cries before going to bed, any mother will first of all begin to suspect that he has some kind of ailment. Still would! There are so many of them, and the baby is so small and defenseless! But let's think without panic, is everything really that scary? Maybe the screams and reluctance to sleep are not explained by crumbs at all?
before bedtime? Komarovsky talks about the rules of getting ready for bed
The most famous doctor of our time claims that a healthy child must be ensured by creating a normal environment in the room where the baby sleeps. It means the following:
- No accumulation of dust in the form of rugs, pillows, or a huge number of soft toys in the children's room!
- The air temperature in the sleeping room should not exceed 20°, and the humidity, accordingly, should not exceed 50-70%.
- Heaters that dry out the air and warm clothes will not help your baby fall asleep; on the contrary, they will make his sleep anxious and difficult.
Only in normal conditions the baby will calmly fall asleep without signaling the “unintelligible” parents about his discomfort.
Why before bed? Down with
But not only the above factors prevent the baby from sleeping. Perhaps you taught him to fall asleep only in your arms (or rather, he taught you)? Thus, the instinct of the newborn came into force.
The fact is that his connection with his mother is very strong until a certain age. Without her, the baby does not feel protected. And he can realize this only by being held in his arms and feeling something big and warm nearby. And, succumbing to such a provocation, the mother only fixes this instinct more strongly.
In different children, by the way, this need is expressed in varying degrees, while sleeping in your arms will not become acute problem, if you do not support the baby in his demand.
The main thing is to make sure that screaming before bed is precisely the desire to be “safe.” It is clear that no pain goes away because the baby is picked up. If he screams in the crib, but immediately falls silent in your arms, be patient and wait out his violent emotions, consoling yourself with the thought that this will soon pass. But if the baby continues to cry after being taken out of the crib, you need to look for other reasons for your child’s anxiety.
Why does a child cry before going to bed: maybe he is sick?
May be trying to tell you about his feeling unwell: his stomach hurts, his nose is breathing poorly, his teeth are cutting, etc. But surely not only whims before bed will be symptoms of the disease. If you find that your baby is sick, contact your pediatrician. He will help you understand the problem and choose the necessary treatment.
Constant whims and reluctance to sleep may also be a consequence of your child’s developing fears or phobias. In this case, you need a neurologist.
The child cries in the evening before going to bed
For good sleep Of course, you definitely need to take a walk in the fresh air and get really tired during the day. But don't overdo it! You shouldn't run or jump shortly before you go to bed - then you'll be guaranteed tears.
Towards the evening, keep your fidget busy with something calm, and when you put him to bed, try to stay with him for a while, holding the baby by the hand and quietly humming or telling a story. Perhaps this is exactly what the baby is trying to achieve.
Warmth in communication, love and attentiveness will help parents figure out why the child cries before bed and eliminate this problem.
