I have long noticed that I feel more balanced and confident when I take time to relax, meditate, or pray. Quite satisfied with the result, I soon stop doing this. Gradually my life becomes more and more stressful, I come to despair. Calm leaves me. Then I resume my relaxing activities, and life gradually gets better.
Lots of people go through this cycle. From this we can conclude: “If you don’t have time for relaxation, it is absolutely necessary for you”.
To find peace of mind, you need to develop the habit of giving yourself a break every day. People who have achieved peace of mind often perform certain rituals. Some pray, others meditate, others take a walk at dawn. Everyone finds their own way of relaxation. This helps us better understand and tune ourselves.
Peace of mind is a state of harmony with the whole world and, above all, with oneself. But above all, peace is balance.
The number one challenge for people doing martial arts is to maintain balance. Once you start practicing karate, you will learn that strength comes from balance and a cool head. Once you add some emotions, your song is sung. Equilibrium and peace of mind- sources of our self-confidence. Calm does not mean sleepy! Calm is about managing power, not resisting it.. Calmness is the ability to see the big picture without focusing on the details.
If you want to protect yourself from all adversities, you have chosen the wrong planet. Peace and confidence can only be found within yourself. There is no stability in the world around us; everything around is in a state of eternal variability. How can we cope with the unpredictability of life? Only by accepting it! Tell yourself: “I love surprises. It’s great when you know that something unexpected can happen at any moment.” Make a decision: “No matter what happens, I can handle it.” Make an agreement with yourself: “If I get fired, I will find a job with a more flexible schedule. If I get hit by a bus, I won't be here anymore." This is not a joke. This is the truth of life. The earth is a dangerous place. People are born and die here. But that doesn't mean you have to live like a cowardly rabbit.
Life will remain a struggle if we insist on it. Modern civilization taught us to constantly strain ourselves. We grew up believing in resistance. We tend to push events and push people. We exhaust ourselves, and this does more harm than good.
One young man traveled all over Japan to meet a great martial artist. Having achieved an audience, he asked the Teacher: “I want to become the best. How long will it take me?
And the sensei answered: “Ten years.”
The student asked: “Master, I am very capable, I will work day and night. How long will it take me?
And the Teacher answered: “Twenty years!”
Greetings, deserted corner... It is no mere coincidence that cultures around the world have a tradition and reverence for solitude. During the period of initiation, both the American Indian and the African Bushman left their tribes, hiding in the mountains or forests in order to understand their destiny. Great spiritual teachers - Christ, Buddha, Magomed - drew inspiration from solitude, like millions of their followers. Each of us needs such a treasured place where phones don’t ring, where there’s no TV or Internet. Let it be a nook in the bedroom, a corner on the balcony or a bench in the park - this is our territory for creativity and reflection.
Since the 17th century, science has had Sir Isaac Newton's method: if you want to understand something, break it into pieces and study the pieces. If that doesn't make things clear, break it down into even smaller pieces... Eventually you'll figure out how the Universe works. But is this true? Take a Shakespeare sonnet and break it down into nouns, prepositions and pronouns, then break the words down into letters. Will the author's intent become clearer to you? Lay out the Mona Lisa into brush strokes. What will this give you? Science works miracles, but at the same time it dissects. The mind breaks things down into parts. The heart collects them into one whole. Strength and prosperity come when we look at the world as a whole.
Forces of nature. Have you ever noticed that you can wander in the forest all day and feel an influx of energy? Or spend the morning at the mall and feel like you've been run over by a truck? Everything around us vibrates, be it grass, concrete, plastic or polyester. We catch it. Gardens and forests have a healing vibration - they restore our energy. Vibration of concrete shopping centers– another type: they suck energy. Vibration cathedrals directed upwards. In smoky bars and strip clubs you will leave the lion's share your life force.
It doesn’t take a genius to understand: our health and attitude depend on elusive energy environment. When we are full of energy, we can easily resist illness and bad mood those around you. If energy is at zero, we attract depression and illness.
Why is relaxation needed? Almost everything we do in life is a race for results. But deep relaxation, meditation or prayer help us look at life in a new way. We expect that the future will give us many pleasant moments. However, our attention must still be focused on the present. As we practice deep relaxation, we will begin to notice that some of the qualities acquired through the exercises gradually become habits and change our daily life. We become calmer, we have intuition.
We all have inner voice, but it is weak and barely visible. When life gets too hectic and noisy, we stop hearing it. But as soon as we muffle extraneous sounds, everything changes. Our intuition is always with us, but often we do not pay any attention to it.
Relaxation will save you more time than you spend on it.. Make it a habit - tune yourself like tuning a musical instrument. Twenty minutes every day - so that the strings of your soul sound clean and harmonious. Wake up every morning with the intention of being calm and balanced. Some days you will be able to hold out until the evening, and sometimes only until breakfast. But if maintaining peace of mind becomes your goal, you will gradually learn this, perhaps the most important art in your life.
How often have you promised yourself not to be irritated, not to quarrel, not to worry about trifles? And how long did it take you to do it? And it’s not even a matter of our reluctance to change something in our own habits, behavior and outlook on life. It’s just that sometimes we don’t know what exactly is worth paying attention to in the crazy whirlwind of everyday affairs, we can’t track this very first step, which leads us down the path of anxiety, resentment and disappointment.
Here are 12 tips that can help you control your thoughts and actions and find the key to finding peace of mind.
Finding peace of mind #1. Do only what is necessary for you personally
Agree, it is incredibly difficult to force yourself to do something, knowing in advance that as a result you will not receive any benefit for yourself, no reward, or gratitude. The need to complete it is perceived as an annoying obstacle, as something that knocks us out of our usual rhythm. Therefore, when starting to do something, try to understand what it will give you, what benefit or benefit (not necessarily material) you will get from it. If you managed to find at least something, great! Now you know what you are trying for. If you couldn’t find such an incentive, you shouldn’t take it. 
Finding peace of mind No. 2. Don't interfere unless asked to do so.
Many people are familiar with the situation when they want to decide or do something instead of a relative, close friend, or adult child. As a result, instead of gratitude, we receive accusations and irritation. Relationships with those whom we tried to “bless” only get worse. Let others solve their problems, do not impose your help - this way you will avoid disappointment in loved ones and maintain peace of mind.
Finding peace of mind #3. Don't make promises, and if you make them, keep them
Promises sometimes tie us hand and foot. Having rashly promised something, we sometimes face a thousand reasons for which we cannot fulfill our promise. Wouldn’t it be more correct to promise nothing at all: this way we won’t give empty hopes. If a promise is made, it must be fulfilled, no matter the cost, not only for the sake of maintaining good relationships, but also for one’s own peace of mind and adequate self-esteem. Let you not have a reason to blame yourself again and again.
Finding peace of mind #4. Do not rush to refuse a request
Having fulfilled someone's request, we can at least count on gratitude. We give a person what he really needs this moment needs, and we also get a lot for ourselves. By helping others, we own eyes“we grow up”: we understand that we are needed, that we are valued.
Finding peace of mind #5. Do not transmit unverified information
Finding peace of mind #6. Don't get hung up
If you see that the situation has reached a dead end, if all proven methods do not work, and things are not moving forward, it is better to leave this issue until better times and stop struggling to solve it. Perhaps the situation will resolve itself - life is wise; or perhaps an insight will suddenly come to you, and you will find a new way to act, which simply never occurred to you before: there is no miracle in this, the subconscious will “process” the information and give you a solution, even if you seem to have stopped thinking about it. think about it.
Finding peace of mind No. 7. Don't set rigid goals
Remember that your goals are not the final stop on the path, but only guidelines for further development and movements. If you follow this rule, you can get rid of the feeling of emptiness and meaninglessness that often grips us when we get what we want.
Finding peace of mind #8. Live here and now
There is only one moment in our life that we can really influence - the one that we are experiencing at the present moment. By changing the present, we change our attitude towards the past and create the future, we should not forget about this.
Finding peace of mind #9. Don't judge or criticize
It has been noticed that people pay attention to other people’s shortcomings often in order to rise in their own eyes and increase their importance among those around them. But is this the only way to increase self-esteem? Think about it, is this worth the reputation of a gossip?
Finding peace of mind #10. Don't regret anything
Learn to perceive every experience, even unsuccessful at first glance, every event that you want to call a nuisance, not as a reason for worry, but as a lesson. Think about what you can learn from difficult circumstances and take action!
Finding peace of mind #11. Don't impose
If people are not ready to accept your advice, to listen to your opinion, you will waste your time and energy trying to impose it. If your help is really needed, they will ask for it.
Finding peace of mind #12. Respect other people's things
Don't use other people's things or ideas without permission - and you won't have to make excuses or feel guilty.
At first, it will take some effort to stop yourself in time and prevent you from breaking any of these rules. But over time, this will become a habit, and you will feel how much calmer and more pleasant it has become for you to live and communicate with others.
Sergei Lukyanenko. Sixth Watch
The secret of peace of mind is the ability to let things pass by
of your consciousness intrusive streams of useless information.
Peace of mind as a personality quality – the ability to be calm, peaceful, balanced; avoiding the “swing” of life, not being too happy and not worrying too much, living in harmony with yourself and with outside world.
Once upon a time there lived a king. And he wanted a picture that would radiate peace, tranquility and lead to mental balance. So that every time you look at her, your soul becomes calmer and lighter. The reward for such a picture was a bag of gold.
Many artists set to work. When all the paintings were completed, the king examined them, but among them only two attracted his attention. One painting depicted a quiet lake. It, like a mirror, reflected the mountains towering around it and blue sky with white clouds. Strange flowers grew on the shore, and colorful butterflies fluttered above them. Everyone who looked at this picture was convinced that this was a perfect picture of peace.
On the second canvas there were mountains - sharp and gloomy. The sky was raging above them, there was rain and lightning flashed. A foaming waterfall cascaded down the mountain wall. It didn't look peaceful at all. However, having looked closely, the king saw a tiny bush growing from a crevice in the rock near the waterfall under a small stone canopy. A bird built a nest on it. There, surrounded by rapidly falling raging water, despite everything, she continued to hatch the chicks. It was this painting that the king chose.
Morality : Peace of mind does not arise where it is quiet and peaceful, where there is no noise and disturbance, but where, despite all the adversities of life, a person has learned, thanks to reason, to maintain calm and serenity in his soul. What matters is not what we perceive, but how we perceive it.
Human - very complex system, peace of mind which depends on the state of its elements. It is difficult to talk about mental balance when health is shaken, illnesses have piled up, when human needs are not fully satisfied: physiological, emotional, intellectual and spiritual.
Mental balance is the result of a correct understanding of the world, in which there are no idealizations, excessive joys and sufferings, excessive attachments to money and material benefits. In a state of mental balance, a living being is not aware of sadness and anxiety, it is easy for him to concentrate on the desired goal.
The open road to peace of mind is a clear conscience. There is no peace of mind from a restless pillow. Conscience always prompts the correct reaction to the challenges of life, therefore conditions are not created for the emergence of feelings of guilt, which most of all deprive a person of peace of mind.
Peace of mind is the result of peace. A peaceful person constantly experiences a state of peace of mind, mental balance and grace.
What else does mental balance depend on? Moderation provides peace of mind by avoiding excess emotional manifestations. Rudeness, scandalousness, rudeness, manifested from the outside, can bring a person out of emotional balance, cause a sharp headache. Anger is always a loss of mental balance, it is an uncontrollable state. Anger is a translator of the relationship between our inner self and the outer world. If there is no tolerance and gratitude, it is immediately clear that communication is impossible. But if you have tolerance and gratitude, it’s already possible. It is already possible to feel normal in the presence of this person if there is tolerance and gratitude on his face. It no longer feels good if they tolerate me and are grateful to me. I already want to do something in response. “They tolerate me, maybe I should change my behavior?” This is already a step forward. Only in such a state of consciousness can one find peace of mind. It's a simple secret. We experience anxiety, pressure, nervousness. The secret is up to us. If we simply express tolerance and gratitude on our faces, naturally a peaceful, calm atmosphere will reign around us.
Seraphim of Sarov said: “Look at the sky more often, and not at your feet - and your thoughts will be clear and light. Be silent more than speak - and silence will settle in your soul, and your spirit will be peaceful and calm.”
A person is deprived of mental balance by envy, anger, hatred, resentment, inability to forgive, to be forgiving, generous and compassionate. Mental balance is instilled in an optimistic, positive environment, it does not live where passions rage, betrayal, lies, mistrust, jealousy, uncertainty, disobedience, stupidity reign... Mental balance is disturbed by human pride, arrogance, arrogance, arrogance, arrogance and swagger.
A person who gets carried away with creating nasty things and dirty tricks never achieves peace of mind. Eric Berne in his book “Games People Play” writes: “Games are most often played by people who have lost their mental balance; In general, we can say that the more anxious a person is, the harder he plays.”
Peace of mind is prescribed for those who are satisfied and grateful to fate for their life.
No one knows how fate will turn out...
Live freely and don't be afraid of change.
When the Lord takes something away,
Don't miss out on what he gives in return...
U sunny man life flows in peace of mind. A person with a bright soul sees the world as clear, pure and bright. As we are, this is how the world appears to us. For a person in mental balance, the world reveals its entire palette of colors.
Richard Bach wrote: “We create our own world. How can we be offended by the life we have created for ourselves? Who to blame, who to thank, except ourselves! Who, besides us, can change it as soon as he wishes?
Peace of mind largely depends on whether a person has found his life purpose, whether he has encountered work that has become a source of joy, encouragement and inspiration for him. The great Confucius wrote: “Find a job that you fall in love with and you will never have to work a single day in your life.”
Awareness of thoughts leads to mental balance:
“If you want to understand what is truly yours, let go of everything, and what’s yours will remain with you.” Eckhart Tolle
"The most a great victory- victory over one's own negative thinking" Socrates
“Everything you need is already within you. I believe that people create their own heaven and their own hell. It's a personal choice." Carl Logan
“There will come a time when you decide it's over. This will be the beginning." Louis Lamour
“People think they will be happy if they move to another place, but then it turns out that wherever you go, you take yourself with you.” Neil Gaiman
“You will never be able to live up to other people's expectations... Others will always be unhappy with something because the reason for it is within them, not within you.” Papaji
“You do not forgive others in order to heal them. You forgive others to heal yourself.” Chuck Hilling
“Live here and now! Enjoy today!” - this is the secret of peace of mind. The eyes of the dead implore us about this, looking from gravestones and old photographs: “Rejoice while you’re alive!” All the philosophers, poets and sages of the world remind us of this:
Do not mourn, mortal, yesterday's losses,
Don’t measure today’s deeds by tomorrow’s standard,
Believe neither the past nor the future minute,
Believe the current minute - be happy now!
Modern scientists, psychologists, and doctors talk about the same thing. Here is the recipe for happiness once given by the famous American doctor William Osler: “Don’t ruin your happiness by burning it.” positive energy in the senseless reliving of past or future troubles. The burden of the future, added to the burden of the past, which you shoulder in the present, makes even the strongest stumble on the path. Isolate the future as hermetically as the past... The future is in the present, and the past no longer exists. The day of man’s salvation is today!” Take a closer look at the familiar faces of your family and friends: isn’t it happiness to be close to them? Therefore, forbid yourself to think about yesterday or worry about tomorrow. Enjoy, be satisfied, be comforted by the current day. And collect all the flowers that bloomed for you this morning today! Definitely today!
Peter Kovalev
There was a time when I couldn't sleep for hours. A random incident, an unfortunate event, a conversation that didn’t end the way (as I would have liked) unsettled me for a long time. Obsession in thoughts and constant digestion of what was, reliably sucked my attention and deprived me of vital energy. The next morning I felt not cheerful and well-rested, but mortally tired and overwhelmed.
I realized that I was simply in a negative “emotional cocoon” into which, to be completely honest, I had plunged myself. In the end, no one forced me to experience unpleasant and difficult experiences. I did it myself. Albeit unconsciously.
So I started looking for a way out.
A static system is most vulnerable
The main discovery lay on the surface.
We are not so much slaves to our own preferences and habits as slaves to stability. The older we get, the less we want anything in life to truly change. Especially things haven’t changed the way we want them to. We crave stability and peace. Firmness and immutability. The inviolability of established life orders. So that it always feels good, blissful and curly.
But that doesn't happen.
The world around us does not exist according to the laws that we invent for it. The world around us exists according to the laws of dialectics. And dialectics provides for the constancy and immutability of only one thing - conflicts and contradictions.
Trying to escape from conflicts is an attempt to escape from reality or escapism. Reality will still impose them on you, but not on your field, but on its own field. I learned the hard way what it is to be silent when you need to speak, what it is to push away from problems when you need to solve them, what it is to sit and blink your eyes when you need to act. As a result, sooner or later I lost.
Then I realized that trying to ignore the world, being in your illusions, does not lead to peace of mind, but on the contrary, it gives rise to a bunch of situations leading to discomfort.
I had one friend whose constant dream was that everyone would leave him alone. But for some reason it always turned out that someone didn’t care about him anyway. Miracles and that's all.
State of dynamic equilibrium
One of my life teachers was the children's toy “Vanka-Vstanka”. She showed me that there is a condition in which no matter how life hits you, no matter how much it pushes you, you will always return to the position you occupy. In other words, you always maintain internal balance, despite continuously occurring changes and external influences.
This state is called dynamic equilibrium.
In practice, this means that nothing, no external event or circumstance can unsettle you and lead you astray from your intended goal. On the contrary, you turn any troubles to your advantage. Have you been harshly criticized? Instead of becoming discouraged, you use the facts you learn to intensive work above yourself and reach a new level. Got fired? You don’t give up and don’t complain about fate, but remember your forgotten talents and create a profitable business using them.
But all this is simply a consequence of the fact that you adequately perceive reality and react flexibly to it. There are no ineffective rules and limiting frameworks in your head, but a holistic perception of the world and the ability to see what is usually hidden from the gaze of other people.
Development strategy
The path to achieving inner peace and mental balance, that is, a state of dynamic balance, is the path of practice. It's ever increasing degree of personal maturity. And this is exactly what the vast majority of people involved in “self-development” strive to avoid like hell. Because it’s very cool and fun to do something pleasant, comfortable and interesting (for example, meditation or reading books) and consider that you are “developing.”
And it is very unpleasant to look deep into yourself and realize that you and only you are the only reason for the events happening in your life - in business, in relationships, in current circumstances. Realizing this is sometimes very painful and unpleasant. It’s so unpleasant that the cunning and resourceful mind begins to invent various “serious and valid” reasons just to avoid doing real work on oneself. Just so as not to see the true state of things.
The woman's husband left her. Left for someone else. He left because he was partying and because he got bored. These reasons are not hidden. They were lying on the surface. It was enough to look closely and compare some facts and signs to see them. And when you see it, take appropriate measures. But what happened happened. And she can correct/improve the situation only by realizing the processes by which she found herself in it.
Instead, a woman runs to fortune-tellers, witches, attends women’s trainings, “cleanses karma” and does other easy, pleasant and interesting things. My husband even returns. For a while. But then he gets bored again and goes off into the night again in search of adventure. And this can be repeated for a long time.
Real personal growth cannot be replaced by simulation. No way.
Pull out the root
I persistently searched for the root of anxiety, the source of all and all worries, anxieties and worries. And I couldn’t find it. Until I realized that my current personality (and the overseer controlling it) didn't actually want to look for it. For this root is open, arrogant and shameless lies to oneself. Believe me, deceiving ourselves by creating illusions and simulacra is one of the most favorite pastimes of our limited mind.
Is it possible to stop lying to yourself?
But then you will have to face in full the amount of truth about yourself, about people, about life that you did not want, could not and did not want to see. And after this, it will no longer be possible to live as you were used to before. This is a one way ticket. The choice is serious and not everyone is ready to make it. This is the destiny for real strong people. Or those who want to become one.
After this you will have a completely different life. Outwardly nothing will change. At least right away. But your perception will become as pure as you want. You will see the world completely different, completely different from how you see it now. Are you ready to embark on this exciting and challenging journey? Start by sending requests for free consultation.
I'm sure you are worthy better life! Calm, happy and harmonious.
It's impossible to feel completely happy man, if it is constantly accompanied by mental discomfort. In this state it is impossible to fully enjoy life. Nothing makes you happy - not the warm rising sun, not the successes of family and friends, not your own achievements. But if true harmony and peace of mind reign in the soul, then every morning, even Monday, is long-awaited and joyful. A happy person approaches any events, new meetings, or seasons of the year with great anticipation. Why is this happening? What is the secret truly happy people, why is it easy for some to find harmony and balance, but not for others?
Happiness is in our hands
Another great Petrel, Maxim Gorky, argued that each of us is born for happy life just like any bird for flight. Agree, one cannot but agree with this statement. But most people mistakenly believe that happiness is something that does not depend on us. This feeling is either bestowed by God or not. In fact, we hasten to pleasantly disappoint you with a banal phrase - happiness is in your hands. You can feel spiritual harmony and balance through your own efforts. Moreover, psychologists are sure that happiness can be easily cultivated. If you want to know a simple recipe, carefully study the valuable recommendations and strictly follow the rules presented below.
Don't narrow your goals
First of all, you don’t want happiness to be your only goal. It comes unexpectedly to those who do not expect it. If you constantly think about this main component of a harmonious existence, then you can, as they say, “get rid of it.” And the waiting time will turn into a terrible nightmare, torture. Do things differently - while joy is on the way, do not stop enjoying life, seize successful moments and have fun. Situations of failures and troubles may arise - do not be upset. Fate sometimes teaches us lessons, teaching us to be more patient and wise.
There is no such thing as a continuous black line; the laws of life are not structured that way. A gray one will definitely flash, then a white one and everything, as they say, will settle down. So, we study the golden and universal rules, thanks to which a beacon of hope, joy and a prosperous existence on our beautiful Earth will definitely flash in the life of every reader.
Rules for a happy life
There are certain things that cannot be bought with any amount of wealth on the planet. These include our health, which should be taken care of from a young age. Many people start thinking about their body too late, when it is obvious serious illnesses. But to maintain health in good condition not at all difficult if we are not talking about congenital pathologies. What is needed for this:
Good health
- Get up with the sunrise. It’s not for nothing that people have been waking up early in the morning since ancient times. After all The biological clock, daytime, a certain time of sleep - all this was invented for a reason. And note - those who get up with the roosters, start working on time - always win. Everything goes well for such people, they have stable and good earnings, the house is always clean, cozy, warm and satisfying. Those who wake up early have enough time for everything - work, rest, entertainment, communication with family. Moreover, they do not need to constantly rush, there is enough time.
- Do daily therapeutic exercises. Let it be aerobics, regular movements, yoga, qigong - it doesn’t matter. Thanks to activity, a person’s blood flow improves, stagnant, inflammatory processes, excellent coordination, sharp mind, good mood. Also physical exercise prevent excess fats, toxins from accumulating and the level of bad cholesterol from increasing. Consequently, blood vessels, gastrointestinal organs, heart, lungs, bone and nervous systems are preserved in good condition.
- After class, be sure to take cold and hot shower, dry yourself with a hard towel - activate all the points, let the skin breathe with freshness, and blood microcirculation improves. Thanks to this procedure skin covering will always be tightened, the areas of the brain responsible for calmness, self-control, vision, hearing, and appetite are activated. Immediately after the shower, you feel lightness and a colossal flow of energy and vigor.
- Eat right. Yes, each of us is guilty of craving for smoked, fatty, sweet food. Don't completely rule it out harmful products, just consume them in minimal quantities and occasionally. Lean on vegetables, fruits, seafood, fish, white meat, nuts.
- Drink as much as possible more water. Normally, you need to consume at least 2 liters per day, you can add green tea to your diet, herbal infusions, compotes, juices.
- Work in moderation. There is no need to overwork and try to do everything in one day. Work should be easy and relaxed. This is the only way to enjoy your activity and at the same time maintain your health. The same goes for studying. Treat your path as a subscription to a promising future. Learn for fun, but don't be lazy.
- The journey home should not be accompanied by alcohol consumption. It’s better to take a glass of a light drink - tea, smoothie, medicinal cocktail.
- Have breakfast, lunch and dinner during. There is no need to overeat; light snacks of nuts, pears, etc. are also useful.
- Any meal should take place at the family table in the presence of all household members. Not only should there be freshly prepared dishes on the table, but a positive attitude is also important. Eating between laughter, jokes, and in an atmosphere of goodwill and mutual respect is an important aspect for excellent health.
- Go to bed on time. There is no need to stay up late looking at TV, which contains a lot of negativity. It’s better to turn on an old comedy or light music, and go to rest by 21-00. The body needs rest and dreams of plunging into a pile of clean bed linen to see sweet and rosy dreams.
Additionally, it must be said that if you have any mental problems, consult a specialist. A visit to a psychologist is not a shame, but a banal way to solve problems with the participation of a professional in a relationship.
Spiritual health
Most often, mental discomfort arises due to psychological problems. There is confusion between effect and cause here. For example, ladies who were unable to feel happy with some man most often have a negative attitude towards all representatives of the stronger half. One word - Goats! Is everything so clear? Maybe it still makes sense to pay attention to your own behavior. It is important to analyze all the steps that preceded the separation. Believe me, self-criticism has never hurt anyone. If an unpleasant situation arises, be kind, treat yourself with humor and do not consider that only bad people surround you.
Optimism, openness and kindness will be an excellent guarantee of a favorable attitude from the outside, which especially attracts men.
Learn to say "Thank you"
Our generation is perhaps the most ungrateful. Psychologists say that ungrateful people end up completely alone and are not loved by others. Here we are talking not only about specific gratitude for something. We don't know how to be grateful for what life has given us. Strange, but even if there is good home, excellent job, healthy and cute children, successful marriage, a person manages to be indignant and grumble. It's even worse when we don't notice the kindness directed our way from others. We take everything for granted and forget to note that it is a gift of fate.
The reason for everything is a selfish nature, for which everything is not enough and everything is bad. We need more and more. Does this remind you of anything from Russian literature? Remember... The old woman from the fairy tale about the Golden Fish also grumbled, and everything was not enough for her. And what she was left with was a broken trough. An instructive story, you know, which is worth re-reading again.
It is impossible to fully experience happiness without being grateful. Learn to say thank you to your parents, children, spouses, friends and life for everything you have and what you don't yet have. In that moment, harmony and peace will reign in your soul.
Are you already happy
You always need to be sure that there is already happiness in your life. Even if there was stressful situation- be optimistic. Convince yourself that this won't last long. Shift your attention to something positive. Self-criticism and self-flagellation will not lead to anything good, but will make it worse. depressive state. What kind of happiness can we talk about in such cases?
Pay attention to the kids. They never worry about what they were told. On the baby's negativity short memory. And all adults do is string all their experiences, barbs from colleagues, rudeness of teenagers, loss of a wallet, lack of time, like beads on a thread. As a result, a spoiled mood and growing depression, sad thoughts, etc., like a snowball.
Don't cry out for trouble
Someone wise said that thoughts tend to materialize. Constant apprehensions, fears that something will happen, an accident will happen, it will strike terrible disease, the children will grow up bad people, will lead to all this coming true. If your spouse constantly hears that he is a womanizer, at some point his eyes will turn towards another woman. Stop, stop senseless hysterics, eliminate pessimism, look at the future only with broad with open eyes, full of good hope for happiness.
Program your destiny
In order to program your life only for luck, success and prosperity, deal with with your own feelings. If negativity constantly arises, you are depressed, and there is no reason for this, things are bad. Well, such a person cannot have a chance for a harmonious existence. Imagine that your thoughts are a sheet of negativity, and immediately in your mind tear up this sheet, which only causes problems. Think about what brings pleasure, makes you smile - the sound of a wave, a light night breeze, remember the smile of your baby, the moment when you gave flowers, or pleased with good news.
Control your mood
Most people are probably familiar with the state when, in a completely cloudless state of affairs, sadness, sadness, and resentment arise. In short, cats scratch your soul. It may also happen that in the event of serious troubles, the mood, on the contrary, increases sharply.
- firstly, you need to see a doctor and check your health;
- secondly, under no circumstances should you take on important matters in such a state. Especially if you are in a bad mood.
The situation will improve very quickly, in any case, there will be relief in your soul, joy will arise, and then you can plunge headlong into serious negotiations and take on important projects.
Start with yourself
Don’t try to change people, believe me, it’s a thankless task. Whatever the self-criticism of the person you are communicating with, words of criticism from you will be received negatively. It is also worth understanding that teaching others is easier than changing yourself. We are always confident that we are smarter, more serious and wiser than others. This is not so, at least, this is what almost everyone believes. The process of changing your own attitude towards others will take much less time and will pass without consequences. Moreover, by changing yourself, you will find more friends and feel respect, which will certainly bring a certain harmony and balance to your soul.
Think only positive thoughts and live purposefully
You painfully want to acquire something, buy or build a house, a car, or meet your other half. Think as if your wish has come true. Imagine yourself inside a beautifully furnished home, an expensive car flying at high speed. Thinking about the positive, have fun, attract, attract happiness.
Flashing through your thoughts, your dreams should be framed in some kind of shell. That is, set specific goals and gradually move towards them. Remember Pumpkin from Cipollino. He dreamed of a house, but along the way he got one brick at a time. A specific formulation gives a signal to our subconscious and all actions and plans are focused precisely on achieving the intended desires.
Leave work issues at work
If conflicts arise with colleagues, your superiors yell at you, your subordinates get up in arms – don’t think about it. Remember: work hours should remain within the boundaries of the office. You need to go home lightly and completely cut off the negative memories associated with the current situation. Constant self-flagellation, mental anguish, fears about losing your job can lead to nervous breakdown. Be simpler, force yourself to be respected and let everyone understand that you cannot be penetrated and peace of mind and peace of mind are more important to you than a vacancy. You can always find a job, but restoring your nerves is difficult.
Learn to forgive
Resentment, deception, a rude word, a scandal - these and other unpleasant moments can lead to serious disorder. People who are unable to forgive only make things worse for themselves. Unfortunately, they do not know what a wave of positivity and pleasure comes when you forgive insults and make peace with the offender. Let there be no close relationships later, but there won’t be that barrier that torments every minute.
This also includes an unwillingness to put up with any particular character trait of a person. If this is not a criminal moment, not a lie, you need to forgive and come to terms with it. Remember - the older a person is, the worse he becomes. There have been no cases of people changing in their old age positive side. Since your character trait does not allow you to continue being in a relationship, leave and think about a new life.
- . Let the main motto of your life be: “I will be loved and respected only if I treat myself with love.” Thanks to this, you will not only feel spiritual harmony, but also become a source of goodness and joy.
- Everyone has their shortcomings. Don’t focus on your problems or physical pathologies. There are practically no perfect people in the world. Don’t allow yourself to be insulted and humiliated, fight back, and even better, don’t communicate with boors.
- You should never compare yourself and others. Remember once and for all - you are perfection itself, your individuality is unique, there is no one else like you.
- Accept your weaknesses and shortcomings. If there is no way to correct weaknesses, transfer them to the rank of exclusivity and strengths.
- Work on yourself. You can improve throughout your life. Improve your character, this is the only way you will prove your love to yourself.
- Stop looking around. Stop worrying about what others think of you. Of course, we are not talking about outright defiant behavior. But live the way you want. Allow yourself small joys, plunge into relationships like a whirlpool.
- Reward yourself. Any successful business should be rewarded, so praise yourself and give yourself gifts.
- Whatever you undertake, everything should come from the heart, according to at will. Then there will never be any doubt that someone forced you to do something.
- Make your own decisions. Be that as it may, everyone learns from their mistakes. Over time, your intuition and knowledge will no longer fail.
- Don't wear masks, be yourself. Don't play, don't pretend, do what you think is necessary.
Communicate with people, take up some hobby, let it be swimming, drawing, macrame, playing the piano, etc. Get out into nature more often, breathe fresh and clean air, admire the colors of nature, listen to the rustling of leaves, the sound of rain. The bustle of the city, the noise of cars, the fast pace of life tires and brings confusion to the soul. Solitude with friends or loved ones by the river or sea, or a hike in the forest are useful not only for mental balance and harmony, but also for improving health.
Bye everyone.
Best regards, Vyacheslav.
